I’ve talked a lot about confidence and accepting compliments in these ‘weekly issue’. It’s something I’ve been working on a lot and I definitely think I have made some progress – correction, I thought I did…Until a couple of weeks ago.
A new persons started working in our team at work. I felt sorry for her from the very beginning as our team isn’t a very happy one at the moment – work pressures, staff shortages and things happening one after the other (things that are beyond anyone’s control) seem to have turned all of us into moany gits! Nonetheless, I decided a long time ago that, unless I plan to do something about it and leave, I just have to ‘roll with it’ and carry on as normal. And as far as the new woman was concerned, I never saw this crappy atmosphere as a reason to ‘forget’ my manners in any way, shape or form.
I can’t say I really thought much about it. At least not until a few weeks ago. See it was around that time that the new woman actually told me, on more than one occasion, that she probably wouldn’t have stayed, had it not been for me and this other woman on our team. She said we’ve made her feel welcome and relaxed and that she couldn’t have coped with the tension otherwise. Me being the goon that I am, didn’t even know what to say. I mean, I’m just being me! I’m being polite. Isn’t that what anyone would do?
If step 1 for me was learning to accept compliments, I suppose step 2 will be to accept that just ‘being me’ is enough to be appreciated by people and to actually let them appreciate me without turning into a weirdo…